When you plan to be married for life or fall in love or make plans for anything and think you have met your forever partner or that you have set your appropriate goals you never think of what may happen and well life just happens and you have to do what you have to do. The best word to describe this process is Change! You are forced to make a change and usually it is for the better.
Sometimes it takes time and sometimes you must go through a variation of experiences and attempts to get to your goal, but if you just keep a positive mind set you will attain what you want to. Follow your mind and your heart and make the combination a source of grounding to move forward in your life. Every experience in your life is a way to experience contrast and better define your desired destination. It’s just like eating out at a restaurant, you pick what you want from the menu and unless you taste the dish you won’t know if you like it or not. Once you taste it the next time around your dish will be made to special order or you might decide to try a completely different dish!
Enjoy the varied experiences life has to offer you! Make it a special order EVERYDAY!
Monday, November 22, 2010
Saturday, September 25, 2010
What you think of me is none of my business
"What you think of me is none of my business" is a quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer. I would like to give some advice to those of you who are what society calls "Single Moms" or maybe you are "Divorced Moms" and of course this advice will also serve many others, men & women alike!
I love this quote as it could not express the truth more accurately. How many times do we fall subject to other people's opinions?! The answer is countless times and well I want to address this regarding several different scenarios.
Scenario Number 1 - The Dating Scene
Ok ladies we all know that these days men are often just trying to get into your pants. Unfortunately they are still guided by primordial instincts that go back to the caveman years and honestly they are very easy to manipulate when you use sex as bait - I mean I think I am stating something that is blatantly obvious & it is even redundant to state this, but there you go.
So apply this quote to dating life. Whatever men think of you is a result of their own psyche, their own experiences, their own ideas, and their own fears & upbringing and of course we can't forget the manipulation of images presented by the media upon their brains. Men will always be men. There are a few that have transcended this & go well beyond the primordial instincts so let's not say this about all of them and really age does not make a difference so never make age a factor. A 20 year old can very well be much wiser than a 50 year old man!
Be confident and choose the man that is right for you. Don't let them choose you - you choose them!
Scenario 2 - The Family Life
We are all surrounded by some type of family members. It can be our children, spouse, aunts, uncles, cousins, parents, grandparents. Family Members always have something to say as well about what you should become and well sometimes what they are does not really sit well with what you want to be. So again, and with all due respect, just be you and clearly express yourself as you wish to. You are unique & trying to mold into someone else's idea of what you should be is only going to make you an unhappy camper. Be you! With Respect!
Scenario 3 - The Work Life
If you are doing what you love - Congrats! I desire for all in the world to be following what they truly love & desire, but I know that many are doing just the opposite to "maintain a family" or "pay bills." Again something based on control and the result of man's primordial instincts! Yes 9-5pm can feel like a cage - well unless you love it isn't it??!!!! It sure seems like it.
If your work is your cage make the best of it & don't take it so seriously. Again if your co-workers or your boss are trying to make you conform to something that is not you - Don't take it personal, their thoughts of you is really none of your business!
Be you as long as you are being respectful and doing your job! If your job does not reflect you - WALK ON! The world is full of opportunities & headlines about recessions are only there to bring you down!
Make fun out of a seeming mess or a seeming bad situation. Just enjoy the process and be YOU! Something or someone will always be trying to hold you down, to control you, to manipulate you! Open your eyes! It is not anyone's choice but your own as to how far you let others take you for a ride!
Explore your environment.
Life is beautiful & a great big playing field for you! Create what you want to create!
Always!
I love this quote as it could not express the truth more accurately. How many times do we fall subject to other people's opinions?! The answer is countless times and well I want to address this regarding several different scenarios.
Scenario Number 1 - The Dating Scene
Ok ladies we all know that these days men are often just trying to get into your pants. Unfortunately they are still guided by primordial instincts that go back to the caveman years and honestly they are very easy to manipulate when you use sex as bait - I mean I think I am stating something that is blatantly obvious & it is even redundant to state this, but there you go.
So apply this quote to dating life. Whatever men think of you is a result of their own psyche, their own experiences, their own ideas, and their own fears & upbringing and of course we can't forget the manipulation of images presented by the media upon their brains. Men will always be men. There are a few that have transcended this & go well beyond the primordial instincts so let's not say this about all of them and really age does not make a difference so never make age a factor. A 20 year old can very well be much wiser than a 50 year old man!
Be confident and choose the man that is right for you. Don't let them choose you - you choose them!
Scenario 2 - The Family Life
We are all surrounded by some type of family members. It can be our children, spouse, aunts, uncles, cousins, parents, grandparents. Family Members always have something to say as well about what you should become and well sometimes what they are does not really sit well with what you want to be. So again, and with all due respect, just be you and clearly express yourself as you wish to. You are unique & trying to mold into someone else's idea of what you should be is only going to make you an unhappy camper. Be you! With Respect!
Scenario 3 - The Work Life
If you are doing what you love - Congrats! I desire for all in the world to be following what they truly love & desire, but I know that many are doing just the opposite to "maintain a family" or "pay bills." Again something based on control and the result of man's primordial instincts! Yes 9-5pm can feel like a cage - well unless you love it isn't it??!!!! It sure seems like it.
If your work is your cage make the best of it & don't take it so seriously. Again if your co-workers or your boss are trying to make you conform to something that is not you - Don't take it personal, their thoughts of you is really none of your business!
Be you as long as you are being respectful and doing your job! If your job does not reflect you - WALK ON! The world is full of opportunities & headlines about recessions are only there to bring you down!
Make fun out of a seeming mess or a seeming bad situation. Just enjoy the process and be YOU! Something or someone will always be trying to hold you down, to control you, to manipulate you! Open your eyes! It is not anyone's choice but your own as to how far you let others take you for a ride!
Explore your environment.
Life is beautiful & a great big playing field for you! Create what you want to create!
Always!
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Giving it your BEST!
Shortly after I became a divorced single mother of 3 I realized that sometimes my best would not be good enough and rather than fight it or manipulate others around me to make it seem like my BEST really was good enough I simply accepted it. In doing this there was a sense of liberation, not only for me, but for my children too.
We live in a world full of demands. Everywhere you turn someone is demanding something from you. It might be your family, your friends, your job, your government, your church, your significant other, your business or your neighbor. All in all everyone somewhere is vying for your attention, your time, or your money.
Do your best to make what you want happen! Do your best to put yourself & your family first. Just do your best for you. If your best is not good enough for those that are around you, be it bosses, co-workers, friends, or family members then perhaps it is time to re-assess your relationships with these people and make a decision about how involved they should be in your life & whether it is time to make a change.
Change is good! Embrace it & surround yourself with people, places, and things that align with your values & your own priorities in life - the rest - as they say is history!
We live in a world full of demands. Everywhere you turn someone is demanding something from you. It might be your family, your friends, your job, your government, your church, your significant other, your business or your neighbor. All in all everyone somewhere is vying for your attention, your time, or your money.
Do your best to make what you want happen! Do your best to put yourself & your family first. Just do your best for you. If your best is not good enough for those that are around you, be it bosses, co-workers, friends, or family members then perhaps it is time to re-assess your relationships with these people and make a decision about how involved they should be in your life & whether it is time to make a change.
Change is good! Embrace it & surround yourself with people, places, and things that align with your values & your own priorities in life - the rest - as they say is history!
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
We are ALL Multi Dimensional
Being a mother, a woman, a full time worker, an entrepreneur, an activist, a daughter, a sister, and a friend has made me realize that we all operate in multiple dimensions and that life is a playground with a variety of colors, smells, and ideas to be explored . None of us are only one thing! Even though many of us choose only one focus in our lives or one career, the truth is that we are all multi dimensional playing many different roles every single day of our lives. Because of our current systems we are forced to choose only ONE path in our devotions and force ourselves to stay on this one path, one belief system, one way of doing things all our lives just to make some money. How boring can that be! If you have been blessed by exploring different paths withing your lives, CONGRATULATIONS! I encourage you to explore & do that which makes you feel alive!
I always wonder why it is that people succumb to alcohol & night clubs when these are such bad habits that really are not constructive at all and rather make us become less of what and who we truly are........... and well my conclusion is that it is because people are just trying to escape momentarily the one path that has been forced upon their lives. Yes we sometimes choose this path, but how many times do we choose based on a belief system that we just accepted to be true without any inquiry?
I hope more people will WAKE UP to the beauty the world has to offer! Wake up to all that surrounds us that is constructive, good, and beneficial to our society & humanity as a whole. I mean really who can really “live” doing the same thing every single day of their lives? The thought is just preposterous!
Through Family Squad I really hope to bring people & communities together so we can all appreciate the wonder each one of us has to offer: moms, single moms, dads, single dads, children, businesses, professionals, you name it! We are all here together!
Maria
I always wonder why it is that people succumb to alcohol & night clubs when these are such bad habits that really are not constructive at all and rather make us become less of what and who we truly are........... and well my conclusion is that it is because people are just trying to escape momentarily the one path that has been forced upon their lives. Yes we sometimes choose this path, but how many times do we choose based on a belief system that we just accepted to be true without any inquiry?
I hope more people will WAKE UP to the beauty the world has to offer! Wake up to all that surrounds us that is constructive, good, and beneficial to our society & humanity as a whole. I mean really who can really “live” doing the same thing every single day of their lives? The thought is just preposterous!
Through Family Squad I really hope to bring people & communities together so we can all appreciate the wonder each one of us has to offer: moms, single moms, dads, single dads, children, businesses, professionals, you name it! We are all here together!
Maria
Monday, September 20, 2010
Single Parents - Become a Member of Family Squad
Hello BLOG followers! We are happy to welcome Dianna Hicks of Sooo Hot Productions as our Director of Events! She will be handling all our event productions to serve our Family Squad community. Save the following dates:
October 13th, 2010 from 6pm to 9pm for a Mom's Night Out. Location TBD
October 23rd, 2010 for a Movie Day with Moms & Kids!
We are calling on all MOMS, DADS, AND SINGLE PARENTS to join our community!
Membership Benefits
* Direction & access to professionals and resources
* Discounts from various & selected businesses
* Option to Receive daily inspirational and motivational e-mail messages
* Social monthly events and workshops
* Become part of a community that Inspires you to be a better you All around
We are family here! CLICK HERE TO JOIN NOW - FREE FOR A LIMITED TIME.
Inspiring and promoting a sense of wellness, happiness and positive values to bring individuals, children, their families, businesses and communities closer together.
October 13th, 2010 from 6pm to 9pm for a Mom's Night Out. Location TBD
October 23rd, 2010 for a Movie Day with Moms & Kids!
We are calling on all MOMS, DADS, AND SINGLE PARENTS to join our community!
Membership Benefits
* Direction & access to professionals and resources
* Discounts from various & selected businesses
* Option to Receive daily inspirational and motivational e-mail messages
* Social monthly events and workshops
* Become part of a community that Inspires you to be a better you All around
We are family here! CLICK HERE TO JOIN NOW - FREE FOR A LIMITED TIME.
Inspiring and promoting a sense of wellness, happiness and positive values to bring individuals, children, their families, businesses and communities closer together.
Sunday, August 29, 2010
Changing Times
In today's world nothing seems to be certain anymore. Everything is changing and that is what is truly going on. Economics, politics, religion, business, nature, global issues and the list goes on and on.
At Family Squad we believe that change is something that must be embraced and cherished. Be flexible in your approaches but keep your priorities straight. We may feel afraid of the unknown but really when change is going on it indicates a new beginning.
Single parent households are often faced with many changes. And the only way out is through. So if there is something changing in your life just make the accommodations you need to make. If you need resources, Family Squad can help, just seek us out.
At Family Squad we believe that change is something that must be embraced and cherished. Be flexible in your approaches but keep your priorities straight. We may feel afraid of the unknown but really when change is going on it indicates a new beginning.
Single parent households are often faced with many changes. And the only way out is through. So if there is something changing in your life just make the accommodations you need to make. If you need resources, Family Squad can help, just seek us out.
As Parents we are Responsible
Every day our daily obligations change & we are pulled in many different ways. And more often than not many parents are doing what is best for their children and performing in their daily lives for their children. In other cases this may not be true.
At Family Squad we believe that as parents we need to always put our children first. Even if this means having to put our individual differences aside. Sometimes it is best to be an observer before making hasty decisions. It is always best to look around and assess every situation from every direction in order to make the best decisions for our children.
Single parent households are often faced with higher demands. Join parent groups and talk to others around you if you are a single parent. There is much help out there & sometimes just by socializing you find exactly what you were looking for! So get out there! If you are a married parent open up your heart & mind to today's everchanging family structures and offer your wisdom and support to single parent household seeking guidance. If you need resources or want to socialize, Family Squad can help, just seek us out.
Always stay POSITIVE! Positive thinking will get you to your destination quicker and happier! And always put your children first!
At Family Squad we believe that as parents we need to always put our children first. Even if this means having to put our individual differences aside. Sometimes it is best to be an observer before making hasty decisions. It is always best to look around and assess every situation from every direction in order to make the best decisions for our children.
Single parent households are often faced with higher demands. Join parent groups and talk to others around you if you are a single parent. There is much help out there & sometimes just by socializing you find exactly what you were looking for! So get out there! If you are a married parent open up your heart & mind to today's everchanging family structures and offer your wisdom and support to single parent household seeking guidance. If you need resources or want to socialize, Family Squad can help, just seek us out.
Always stay POSITIVE! Positive thinking will get you to your destination quicker and happier! And always put your children first!
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